Below are excerpts from two wonderful posts on the One Man Bandwidth blog (click here and here or the full posts). Lonnie is an American who has lived in China for 17 years. You will meet him in Guangzhou.
[General Musings]
“[Though they have moved Westward] the Chinese are still generally shy about public discussions of sex and public displays of affection. Hugging someone or asking about sensitive issues might evoke giggling or laughter. The Chinese often respond to social discomfort by laughing.
Do not take their seeming amusement as encouragement. They are telling you they don’t feel comfortable, so don’t push on. The Chinese have long memories and it could cause them to avoid certain kinds of contact with you in the future. Other conversational minefields:
–While it is common to talk about a person’s background or family in China, it is rare to hear someone discuss their spouse or significant other. It is entirely possible that you will attend several social gatherings over several months and not know that your colleague is married or in a relationship.
– Salary and money issues are usually off-limits. The Cantonese seem to feel no fear about asking about a person’s wages or the cost of something they own or wear, but it is best to avoid the subject in young relationships. Normal salaries in Guangzhou can be between $50-400 a month, so don’t put colleagues or friends in a position to be embarrassed when compared to you or the west.
– Don’t ask a woman in her late twenties if she is married. It is a cultural expectation that they will be married by that time, so you could really embarrass her. And don’t expect them to understand why many Americans practice serial monogamy before settling down. Many Chinese have had only one mate since junior high school or college.
– Stay away from religion and politics in dialogue. Most Chinese have no concept of religion, though many are quite superstitious, and the wrong politics can end your advancement in a job setting or worse. It will be a long time before you get anything but party-line answers to questions on Tibet, Tiananmen, Taiwan and so on. Many will not answer you because they just don’t have a lot to share. The news is controlled and bringing up a topic like the role of the new Pope might get you blank stares–like I did when I mentioned it in class as a daily news item. Because of the long-standing rift with the Vatican, Chinese news devoted a total of seventeen seconds of national television to Pope John Paul II’s death.
DO ask about holidays, customs, history and business. And when you do, listen and learn. You are not going to change mindsets by being argumentative. Find out more about how and why the Chinese think the way they do before you attempt to change it. Where some westerners enjoy a lively debate or discussion it may seem to some Chinese that you are angry or oppositional and that will drop you several rungs down the ladder of esteem.
Don’t be “a crane standing among chickens.” There is much to enjoy in interpersonal exchanges if you are open and receptive.
[Creativity and Innovation]
Chinese approaches to problem solving can frustrate the newcomer especially if he/she is called on to lead a team of Chinese nationals. When Chinese students and business managers run up against an obstacle they often just yield to it.
If the Great Wall were encountered by a group of Chinese collegians they would starve to death while forming committees on how to scale it, hurdle it, live on the student side of it or while waiting for their envoy, sent to fetch a projector so they could do a PowerPoint presentation on alternatives, to return. The Wall must have been more to keep Chinese in than Mongols out because when Ghengis Khan encountered it as an obstacle to the siege of Beijing he used the simplest of solutions: He went around it.
In an article in The Economists View I found this: “… Harry Shum, a Carnegie Mellon-trained computer engineer … said: ‘A Chinese journalist once asked me, ‘…what is the difference between China and the U.S.’ I joked, ‘… the difference between China high-tech and American high-tech is only three months - if you don’t count creativity.’”
The Chinese, and Japanese, are masters of the knock-off and can often de-bug new inventions faster than the original designers. But, the Chinese, who believe that that the proverbial nail that stands above the others is struck down, are not yet keen innovators.
Mind you, that is not all bad: Sony was created on the West’s sale of the transistor to Japan. They magnified our creative tremor into a multi-billion dollar tsunami of electronics products.
The Chinese educational system is the precursor for this seeming national inventor’s block. Chinese methodology often instructs students in classrooms deliberately shorted of resources in order to foster group cooperation, sharing and cohesiveness, not individual imagination.
One group of educators from South Carolina reported on a visit to China and mused over how they ordinarily would expect to “… see a classroom that invites children to choose what they want to do, and to work individually in centers, using materials in individualistic and creative ways. Here we saw evidence that teachers expected conformity and a willingness to work toward the completion of a task the chosen by the teacher rather than the child. These contrasting instructional styles highlight an important difference between the Eastern culture that expects citizens to adapt to their environment and Western ones where the social system stresses freedom, self-expression, and self determination.”
And the Chinese style of University teaching is a true marvel: If they banned PowerPoint in Chinese Colleges half of my colleagues would be stuck dumb. They would panic at the thought of delivering a lecture that diverged from main topic headings and bullet points. The only thing worse would be to have to spontaneously entertain questions from the class. Of course the class would be just as terrified about having to invent queries; hence, foreign teachers who teach without clear guides evident to students may be regarded as unorganized or inept.
A government sponsored study done in 2000 showed that only 14.9 percent Chinese youth polled believed they had creative ability; so, do not be surprised when students, friends or co-workers balk at having to tackle a problem without a clear solution. Do not be shocked when they hover around you for answers to difficult problems.
The survey mentioned above also indicated that 60 percent of the youngsters polled recognized the importance of creativity and 65.3 percent have curiosity about the world around them. Consequently, the government is studying ways to break the PowerPoint habit and circumvent the wall. When they do, the economic race will really be on.
Now, if we could just get American kids to do math ….”
Lonnie, you are the man.