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• 1. Dan  |  October 9th, 2008 at 6:00 am

  My thoughts are that this just shows how difficult it can be to deal with another culture. I would have assumed the exact opposite because the Chinese I know are always so quick to discuss things we Westerners are reluctant to discuss (like salaries, unfavorable comments to people about their appearance….)

• 2. Chris Carr  |  October 12th, 2008 at 7:34 am

  Good points, Dan. I did not make that connection but that has also been my experience — being bombarded with questions in China about how much I make, witnessing unfavorable comments being made relating to physical appearance (including my own), etc. Indeed, said gaffes go both ways and are found and made in both cultures.

• 3. Amy Cook  |  October 29th, 2008 at 3:28 pm

  This post caught my eye because I seem to have committed one of these gaffes recently. I was at a party and was socializing in a group of young people (probably all in their early to mid 20’s) when we began to talk about our ages. We all willingly shared our age with the exception of one Chinese woman in the group. I then directly asked her how old she was and got the, (quite serious) response, “Don’t you know you should never ask a Chinese woman how old she is?”. Actually, I didn’t know and I was a little taken aback. I apologized for my gaffe, but was a little embarrassed.

  Later I began thinking about what else I didn’t know about Chinese cultural norms and what other questions I should avoid asking while we are traveling this summer or while socializing with Chinese Americans. An internet search revealed quite a bit of information for travelers considering the recent Olympic Games in Beijing. I was confused however, upon finding a CNN.com article entitled “Olympic Etiquette: Eight Don’t Asks”. The article was about posters which had been posted throughout Beijing prior to the 2008 Olympic Games. The posters were part of government measures to clean