Comments on: The Indian Love Revolution http://calpolymbatrip.com/2010/india/the-indian-love-revolution/ The MBA Graduate Program at Cal Poly Tue, 22 May 2012 21:55:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Vitus Holzner http://calpolymbatrip.com/2010/india/the-indian-love-revolution/#comment-17970 Vitus Holzner Fri, 19 Mar 2010 18:00:30 +0000 http://calpolymbatrip.com/?p=2482#comment-17970 In my opinion having a detective spy on my future wife is an idea I don’t really like. I don’t know why but it just feels wrong and I think it shows a level of distrust that could be a problem for the relationship in the future. I kind of understand why parents do it especially since divorce seems to be not really an option but I think the legitimate concerns of the parents can be addresses in a different way without using detectives to dig through dirty laundry. In my opinion having a detective spy on my future wife is an idea I don’t really like. I don’t know why but it just feels wrong and I think it shows a level of distrust that could be a problem for the relationship in the future.
I kind of understand why parents do it especially since divorce seems to be not really an option but I think the legitimate concerns of the parents can be addresses in a different way without using detectives to dig through dirty laundry.

]]> By: Chris Phippen http://calpolymbatrip.com/2010/india/the-indian-love-revolution/#comment-17931 Chris Phippen Fri, 19 Mar 2010 07:40:15 +0000 http://calpolymbatrip.com/?p=2482#comment-17931 I agree with Fred, I don't see any ethical issues raised by employing the detectives, it is simply out of caution on the parents' part for entering what, to them, is the unknown territory of "love marriages". I'm also very curious to see what happens to the divorce rate. I know it was considered unacceptable prior to this trend, but will that change? As far as the shift away from arranged marriages being for better or for worse (pardon the pun), I'm really not sure. I've never heard any first-hand accounts of people in arranged marriages. I wonder what that relationship is like over a lifetime. Is the position of a spouse treated like a job, where there are duties and responsibilities and pride in carrying those out? Do the individuals learn to love each other, or is that even possible? I'm not even sure I'd feel comfortable asking a person those questions. I agree with Fred, I don’t see any ethical issues raised by employing the detectives, it is simply out of caution on the parents’ part for entering what, to them, is the unknown territory of “love marriages”. I’m also very curious to see what happens to the divorce rate. I know it was considered unacceptable prior to this trend, but will that change?

As far as the shift away from arranged marriages being for better or for worse (pardon the pun), I’m really not sure. I’ve never heard any first-hand accounts of people in arranged marriages. I wonder what that relationship is like over a lifetime. Is the position of a spouse treated like a job, where there are duties and responsibilities and pride in carrying those out? Do the individuals learn to love each other, or is that even possible? I’m not even sure I’d feel comfortable asking a person those questions.

]]> By: Frederick Peemoeller http://calpolymbatrip.com/2010/india/the-indian-love-revolution/#comment-17780 Frederick Peemoeller Thu, 11 Mar 2010 07:50:03 +0000 http://calpolymbatrip.com/?p=2482#comment-17780 I think it is interesting that India is in limbo between their traditional marriages and western style marriages. It seems like the marriage detective acts like a stepping stone to adapt to a more western marriage. I think it is ethical to have these detectives, and it shows that Indians care more about a person's financial success than western cultures when it comes to marriage. I think it is interesting that India is in limbo between their traditional marriages and western style marriages. It seems like the marriage detective acts like a stepping stone to adapt to a more western marriage. I think it is ethical to have these detectives, and it shows that Indians care more about a person’s financial success than western cultures when it comes to marriage.

]]> By: Jeff http://calpolymbatrip.com/2010/india/the-indian-love-revolution/#comment-17758 Jeff Wed, 10 Mar 2010 02:05:34 +0000 http://calpolymbatrip.com/?p=2482#comment-17758 I nearly wrote a blog about this same topic. I think given the numbers of crimes against women in India, researching your future spouse is probably a very good thing to do. Even though dowry was prohibited by law in 1961, it still occurs and is expected. There are "incidents" where wive's who's dowry given by her family, is not considered big enough or good enough, and the wife is beaten, abused, or worse. I think it's a good idea to know the character of the spouse you're getting in bed with. I nearly wrote a blog about this same topic. I think given the numbers of crimes against women in India, researching your future spouse is probably a very good thing to do. Even though dowry was prohibited by law in 1961, it still occurs and is expected. There are “incidents” where wive’s who’s dowry given by her family, is not considered big enough or good enough, and the wife is beaten, abused, or worse. I think it’s a good idea to know the character of the spouse you’re getting in bed with.

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